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Meeting educated and ambitious singles online


When dating a partner compatible with your lifestyle is one of the hardest criteria to meet. If you are an educated and ambitious business man/woman, you need someone that will understand these traits and bring them out in you. A relationship with a partner that holds you back is never going to work. You will find yourself frustrated. This is because they are not your equal and a healthy relationship requires balance. You are an elite single an affluent, educated man or women, with life worked out. You know where you are going and what you are doing. Elite singles can find dating a troublesome game. You meet people from all walks of life, but what you really want is someone on the same path as you. The elite are not common, and you are tired of wasting your time with people that just want to scrape by. An elite single has a winning mentality and views life a certain way. When you have this mentality, people in your dating pool can seem dull .You want a partner that can communicate with you on an intellectual level. Maybe what your relationship needs is a little healthy competition, or someone passionate and opinionated. We live in an exciting time for elite singles. If you want to get serious about online dating, there are now services, which cater specifically to elite singles. The internet is the new way to meet likeminded people and elite single dating sites have become popular in the UK. One of the largest, of these sites is The site is growing rapidly to accommodate 18,000 new members each week. Which just goes to show, that elite singles need their own dating pool. There is a nearly even ratio of men to woman, with slightly more woman joining weekly. supports same sex dating and allows men to search for men, and woman for woman. The registration is always free. There is no risk involved if you don’t like this site. The site is curated to attract elite singles, looking for a long-term committed relationship. Their team is selective and removes users that are not a good fit, for the site. You can think of it as dating Darwinism, or playing mum. However, it works and they have populated their site with professional people. 70% of members hold at least a bachelor’s degree. You might think it is a little superficial to use a degree as an indicator of a good match, but society puts so much emphasis on having a degree, that you can make assumptions about the people that chose not to get one. Degree holders are, on average, more successful. creates on average 2000 new couples each month, in more than 20 countries. This is done with their intelligent matchmaking technology. It profiles members to deliver up to seven compatible matches a day. When you first join the site, you fill out an introductory personality profile. The smart profiling system uses your personality profile and your search inputs to deliver compatible matches. This means the site is always receiving more information about what you are looking for, and every search is bringing you closer to a match. The introductory personality profile is based on the ‘Five Factor Model’ a theory of five broad dimensions used by psychologist, to quantify a personality. It is not an exact science, but it will definitely point you in the right direction. It calculates your levels of openness, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism, all of which are important traits, for a partner to share. There are more than 200 questions in the profile, so it will take some time. However, it means that every member on the site has answered 200 questions about themselves, and the site is matching you based on a lot of data. There are polar yes or no questions and others use a scale to judge relative importance. The questionnaire ends with open-response questions, in which you can talk a little about yourself. Honesty is always the best policy. If you give weighted responses, answering what you think people want to hear, you are less likely to find someone compatible. It can make your profile seem generic. As we, all have similar preconceptions about what we think people want. I wanted to talk briefly about the exceptional dating advice offered on The Magazine is a section of the site, which includes advice from professionals. There is everything from renowned psychologists giving you tips, to happening local bars, great for a first date. It is a great resource, and even if you never join the site, I would still advise you read some of the great articles on there. After the introductory personality profile, you enter your search parameters and begin looking for a match. It is a well thought out system, which deliver compatible matches, but don’t take my word for it. There is no sign up risk. You can get a feel for the site by creating an account. is another site where elite singles in the UK can find one another. The focus of this site is education. If you are a brainy single looking for an equal then this site has 50,000 singles in the UK waiting for you. There is more woman than men on the site and you can sign up for a membership at no risk to your bank balance. It is similar to in that it also requires members fill out an introductory personality profile, although it does not ask nearly as many questions. There are pros and cons to this. Elite singles are busy, by definition, and might not have time to fill out a 200 strong questionnaire. However, the results are not going to be as personalised. I found the questions a little bit superficial, as opposed to the personalised questions asked on I liked the amount of contact requests, which I got on my profile, and found this a different approach to the 6 which I got on my account. Dating is a numbers game, there is no doubt about that, and both the quantity and the quality approach will get you to where you want to be. It is not about the numbers, but the people behind them, and there are educated, motivated professional on both sites, which is what you are looking for. To properly test out both these sites, I went on a date with a member from both of them. I am the first to admit that this is anecdotal evidence, and cannot be used to say that one of these sites is better than the other. Disclaimer over let us begin. I fall right into the target market. I am busy writer who maintains several blogs. There is a cost for doing what you love, and pay it in full, with an eighty hour work week. I work weekends, and this leaves me with no time, left to go out. I decided to try both these websites, partially to review them, and partially because I was cultivating a genuine curiosity, into online dating. Straight of the bat has a nicer interface. The website is user friendly and easy to navigate. It needs to be, because no sooner have you decided to join, than you are answering hundreds of questions about yourself. I am no expert, but from my experience there are a wide variety of people that you can love for many different reasons, and this hyper specific match making implied that I was compatible with one type of woman. I met a lovely girl named Jeanne, on She was a little odd but in a funny, cheerful way. We went to one of the local cafes, recommended to me by a local magazine. I spend a lot of time by myself, taking to a word processor, so my social skills are a little rusty. It was a great relief to find we had common ground, to talk about. She was a journalist and her work had sculpted her into one of the most interesting people, I had ever met. She knew a little about everything, and this opinionated, passionate woman was a little gem. The premise behind the website appeared to be working. I had found my intellectual conversation partner, and was really enjoying myself. She asked if I wanted to go on a second date, but I explained to her that I am leaving the country soon, to go travel South East Asia, true story, and it would be a fruitless endeavour. We parted ways as friends who had formed a genuine human connection., introduced me to a fellow blogger named Susan. We spoke at length about our profession, and how we so rarely had time to do what we were doing. The conversation did not have the diversity as it has had with Jeanne. That is not to say she was not a lovely woman. I felt that she was just as compatible, although a bit shyer. I really enjoyed this conversation, and because she had a bigger meal insisted on paying for lunch, so no complaints there. To wrap things up, on both elite dating sites, I met phenomenal woman. The kind of females, which I could search bars, for the rest of my life, and never find. I will be using them again at some time in the future and recommend that you go check them out.

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